Pervs & Pedos....Let's talk to our children! Most importantly LISTEN!

I know that sexual abuse can be a very difficult topic to talk about especially with children, but we must address the devil that has been creeping around our children silently for generations. This may sound hard to believe but this is an all to common issue that impacts many families; and now is the time to take a stand and speak out against these perpetrators! This is unfair for children to carry this heinous act with them for the rest of their lives with the feeling that they can't tell anyone. It's time to let everyone know especially our children that it is ok to tell. These pervs and pedos actually believe there is nothing wrong with sexually offending against children. This cycle will continue as long as we're silent. So speak up! According to the CDC 2014 Statistics:  CPS estimated that 686,000 children were victims of maltreatment. Of the child victims, 9% of sexual abuse. 27% of victims were younger than 3 years, 20% of victims were age 3-5 years, with children younger than 1 year having the highest rate of victimization (21.9 per 1,000 children). The rates of victimization in 2012 were 8.7 per 1,000 children for boys and 9.5 per 1,000 children for girls.


In the United States,
White (50.2%); one-quarter (25.0%) are African American; and one-sixth (14.5%) are Hispanic. American Indians and Alaska Natives account for 2% of victims, and Asian-Pacific Islanders accounted for 1.3% of victims.
In a nationally representative survey:  42.2% of female rape victims were first raped before age 18.
• 29.9% of female rape victims were first raped between the ages of 11-17.

• 12.3% female rape victims and 27.8% of male rape victims were first raped when they were age 10 or younger. These are just the cases that has been reported. Imagine the many children that are silent.

Four-fifths (80.3%) of perpetrators were parents, 6.1 percent were relatives other than parents, and 4.2 percent were unmarried partners of parents.

This utterly disturbing to me. As a parent your job is to protect your children. Stop sitting around in a household allowing this heinous act to go on. Listen to your children!! Talk to your children. I recently had a conversation with five young ladies and out of that 5, 4 of them had been assaulted by their father or family member. This was just nerve wrecking to me. If you can't trust your own father then who can you trust?! This is a child abuse that often extends long into adulthood. Take the time to talk to your children. Even if you think nothing is going on in your home, still just have that talk with your child(ren). Here are a few tips to help you talk to your child(ren).
1.Go to a place alone where they will feel comfortable and talk to them.
2.Never do this in front of others because it may cause the child to shut down and not open up to you.
3.Ask your child if anyone has been touching them where they are not suppose to or making them feel uncomfortable
4.As a parent if the answer is yes, this may infuriate you, but you must remain calm because getting angry and acting out in front of the child may scare the child. Just let him/her know that they were so bold to tell you and that you promise that they will not get in trouble etc.
5.Inform your children that their are NO secrets and their will NEVER be any secrets. If anything is going on it needs to be told.
6.If you believe that your child has been sexual abuse/assaulted then take it upon yourself as a parent, as a protector to do the right thing by your child and call 911. Better safe then sorry.
7. Last but not least, believe what your children tell you! I've witnessed several occasions where the mother did not believe their children. It is rare that a child is going to falsely accuse someone. Not saying it doesn't happen. I'm saying it's rare. LISTEN to your children and believe them the first time. If you  or someone you know has been sexually assaulted please contact your local police department or the National Sexual Assault Hotline 1.800.656.4673

"Listen earnestly to anything your children wants to tell you. No matter what. If you don't listen eagerly to the little stuff when they are little, they won't tell you the big stuff when they are big, because to them all of it has always been big stuff" Thank you!